December 10, 2013


Psych test today. Finish eng paper today (10 pages, of which I have 0 written – BUT i have about 8 pages of notes and 8 extensive block quotes to add in – so I think I’m cool). Finish argument analysis today – 1 page, almost all written but I must redo with new notes i have. Biology test tomorrow. Study all night. What’s left of it after the papers.

then i’m done. done done done – for a month anyway. ian has two appts and i have one during that month, so all is cool.

i bought mb2’s girlie a really cute fleece throw, a pretty gemstone locket that really isn’t a locket but oh well, and some christmas socks. Is that good?

i bought the kiddo living here a long sleeve tshirt, a short sleeve tshirt, and a paid of sweats. is that good?

and what about A? who sort of lives here but really never asked never bothers to knock and never asks if there’s enough food for him to stay and eat – which usually doesn’t bother me but money is tight and i have to buy 5lbs of meat again instead of 3 and it gets expensive. I only bought enough country fried steaks for 8 of us – not 9. But he sat down and he ate my share without blinking. And dont think I didnt say outloud  to md when he got home – no, i didn’t eat, there wasn’t enough. Did A say anything? Nope. Did he do anything? No. Does he offer to clean dishes or take out the trash? No.

I’m having an L flash back.

I will help you until the cows come home, even if that means we all sacrifice a little. But when my kids ask for seconds and I have to say no because you invited your damn self to dinner – I have  a  problem with that.

I just don’t know how to tell him. I bought J a stocking because HE LIVES HERE. I didn’t buy one for A because he only ‘flops’ here, he doesn’t do shit to help out, he does pay a damn thing, and J will go get mb3 from work at night on his own dime – and fuel is a high commodity around here. Anyway, A went and bought himself a HUGE stocking and hung it on the doorknob next to the rest of the stockings. Do I have to fill it now? Do I have to buy him something? I honestly don’t have any extra buying stuff for the other two.

Gawd. I hate being nice sometimes.


  1. Just tell him. If you don’t, who will? You obviously like him enough to invest… But if he’s gonna be a quality, contributing member of society instead of another entitled “I exist therefore I deserve” prat, he needs to be told how to inspire a stocking vs. being disappointed Xmas morning. There’s still a couple weeks until Xmas… Time enough for him to pull his head out of his butt and earn his smile Xmas morning? I dunno – some kids need help seeing it. Help him? :)

    T. | December 10, 2013 | 12:33 pm

  2. I’m with T. Kid needs a serious reality check. If he’s MB3’s friend, have him have a chat with the kid. They’re legal adults now and should be treated as such.

    Michelle | December 10, 2013 | 5:57 pm

  3. Fill it with a lump of coal. No one gets to come into your home and keep food from you or your kids. No way, no how.

    I know it’s hard, but you (or MD or MB3) will be doing him a favor in the long run.

    I have a 21-year-old in my life who wants to live the good life. I hope she marries rich. Her list includes a $300 watch, $400 purse, $250 shoes, jewelry from Tiffany’s, etc… I semi-joked with her mom that she was getting a “Jesus is the Reason for the Season” wall hanging from me.

    Susan | December 10, 2013 | 7:03 pm

  4. I have to agree with the others. Some people will just keep taking until you don’t give any more. Fortunately I only know one or two as brazen as what you describe, but those one or two are incorrigible, and hints don’t do the trick.

    Karl | December 10, 2013 | 9:56 pm

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